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Eden is a private off premise club for committed, secure COUPLES into alternative / open lifestyles. Our club meets on Saturdays. Check our Upcomming Parties Link for the Days We ask for a $35.00 donation to help pay for the party cost and building. Parties start at 9:00 pm unless posted different. We have our own private building and are in a very private location within the city limits. We are close to hotels and have a group rate at one of the cities finest hotels. Any couples interested in becoming members must set up a time for an meeting or fill out an application from our application Link above, and we will contact you with an meeting time, so you can be filled in on what goes on at the parties. For all those interested please E-Mail us for general questions or click on the above links to find out more! Please note that Eden is for committed couples and single women only, no single men will be considered for membership. Now, enjoy your visit to The Eden Website. We look forward to seeing you at an upcoming party!
Philosophy
Eden's philosophy is to provide a friendly atmosphere where couples can socialize with others of similar interests. It is an ideal environment that allows you to move at your own pace with everyone on common ground. Relax in the social area of our club where you can discuss your wildest fantasies with other members with similar interests.
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We were all new at one time and we can understand your feelings. You will find that those who are experienced in this lifestyle are very understanding and caring people who are extremely sensitive to your feelings. Your presence at our social does not obligate you into the lifestyle. There are no aggressive or pushy people allowed, only friendly open minded people who enjoy meeting others. There will be pleasant conversations while they help you begin your journey into this most enjoyable alternative lifestyle . We can almost assure, you will find lasting friendships with our club members. That is why Eden's motto is: Friends first.
Theme Nights
Eden tries to keep the club exciting with theme nights throughout the year. Some examples are
Roman Night, Toga Night, Beach Night, Costume Parties, etc.
Eden is an off premise altenative lifestyles club
for couples and single women only!
Their are a few steps to attend a Eden party.
1. Must be at least 21 years old.
2. Fill out our membership application. (Click here to go to App. Page)
3. Must attend a scheduled meeting
so you can be filled in on what goes on at the parties.
Each party requires a $35.00 donation
FAQs
What is Swinging?
Swinging is social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate, boyfriend or girlfriend, excepting the traditional one-on-one dating. It may be defined as recreational social sex. The activity may occur at a swing party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liason, or with a third person in a threesome. Though single men and women are involved, it is primarily an activity of couples.
Who the Swingers Are
People who swing come from all economic levels. Every job classification, all races and nationalities are represented, though the majority are Caucasian, middle to upper middle socio-economic class, and married. Swingers, married and single, tend to be adventuresome, emotionally mature, and have excellent relationships with their mates and friends. Single people are involved in swinging but not to the extent of couples. Many single women have joined swing clubs, finding them a refreshing alternative to the traditional bar scene.
Couples in Swinging
Swinging is "the recreation" for couples whether they are married, committed (having an ongoing emotional commitment), living together (co-habitating, with or without an on-going intimate relationship) or single couples who date. A study of swinging couples (McGinley, 1979) reported increased enjoyment and satisfaction in the relationships accompanied by a better understanding of self and mate, greater intimacy between the partners and a decrease in sex role playing and sexist expectations.
Swinging enables a couple to explore sexual and social feelings and needs together, permitting a demystification of sex which allows sex to assume a place in the relationship unhindered by the standard ties to love, duty, sex roles and morals of others.
Women in Swinging
It is certainly an understatement to say that the role of women in our society has greatly changed over the past several decades. The humanistic and womans movements have had an impact on sexuality also. The number of women choosing involvement in swinging during the past few years is remarkable. Sexual and social assertiveness on the part of women at swing parties and other swing activities is not only acceptable, it has come to be expected.
To openly be oneself without fear of seeming unfeminine is a delightful experience for a woman and a welcome experience for the man. Swinging provides the environment to alter sex-role playing for both sexes, allowing men and women to participate with each other in a uniquely human experience.
Men in Swinging
Whether married, in a relationship or single, swinging can be a wonderful experience for a man. Not surprisingly, most women who are into swinging were introduced to the lifestyle by a man in their life. Also not surprising, many men would swing if only they could. They are hindered from the experience by their marriage, or if single, their inability to find a woman for a swinging partner. Of course, guilt feelings about sex and pleasure, and sex roles, also hinder men from swinging.
Men are not the macho, always ready, self-reliant persons of fiction. They are as human as their female counterparts. They experience loneliness and fear rejection. A man, on convincing his wife to try swinging, may experience unexpected jealousy and a feeling of loss when she walks hand in hand, partially nude and obviously excited, toward a bedroom with another towel-clad man. He had fantasized himself in swinging but had not comprehended the reality of his wife or mate swinging.
As with women, the experience of swinging can be growth producing for a man. It alters forever traditional concepts of man-woman relationships with sexist overtones. Through swinging, a man can experience a great deal of pleasure.
What is a Swing Club?
NASCA defines swing clubs as any organization, formal or informal, which exists to provide swinging activities. Swing clubs exist in a variety of forms. These include Swing Clubs, Party Houses, Circles and Socials, Bars and Cocktail Lounges and Contact Services. All but the contact services may be on-premises or off-premises. Contact services work through the mail or telephone and rarely provide swing parties although they may promote group travel. Parties given by on-premises swing clubs may have from ten to sixty or more couples, though twenty to forty couples is the common average. On-premises means that sexual activity occurs at the party. Off premises swing clubs, cocktail lounges and bars help you to meet other swingers. Swinging will be elsewhere with the interested couples and singles responsible for the arrangements. The arrangements include who is to be invited, the location, date and time.
The on premises party offers a wide possibility of social interaction, selection, potential of swinging with others in a foursome, threesome, one-on-one, or in a group scene. Bisexual as well as heterosexual swinging is possible, principally among women. And the club on-premises party offers this without pressure in a structured environment. Private, semi-private and group rooms are generally provided to meet the desires of virtually everyone. Heated pools, Jacuzzis and hot tubs may be available to accent the social environment.
What is a Swing Publication?
Swing publications serve the swing community by publishing personal ads.
Many also publish photos of the advertisers. A few carry ads only. Most offer articles about swinging and sexual behavior. Personal ads offer a form of swinging that many find exciting. The placing and answering of ads is a swing activity in itself. It is exciting to open a letter describing a new couple, perhaps with photos. Socially meeting someone following an exchange of letters, photos and phone calls, with the possibility of swinging, is considered the height of swinging pleasure by many.
What is Sex in Swinging Like?
The actual sexual activity of swinging is varied. Though important, swinging is rarely centered around the orgasm but on the various pleasurable acts that lead to orgasm. Once on a bed, the participants will generally begin with kissing and caressing each others body. Both the womans and mans nipples are favorite places of fondling, sucking and gentle nibbling, followed by licking and kissing around the genital area, then the genitals directly. Most develop techniques they feel pleasure their various partners.
Sixty-nine or mutual oral-genital pleasuring is popular. Either partner may masturbate the other, and vibrators may be employed, especially in group swing scenes such as in the swing clubs group room. These activities may be intermixed with intercourse done in a variety of ways. Anal sex is popular with some swingers. Bisexual swinging is more common among women than among men.
What is "Soft" SWING?
Soft swinging is basically anything, except intercourse with the other couple. Many people assume that "swinging" means "swapping", but there are other types.
What is a "Hardcore" swinger?
A person or couple who's only interest is sex, and lot's of it. Their life tends to revolve around swinging. Most swinger's prefer to be "friends first" and are not hardcore swingers.
What is a "Wannabe"?
Usually a single or married male that is trying to get involved but doesn't have a partner. So they will lie about a partner to meet you. The partner then "conveniently" can't make it. Even worse is the "wannabe" that will bring an unsuspecting person as their "ticket" into a couples party.
I'm interested, but how do I get my partner interested in swinging?
Swinging is not for everyone, so first you must determine whether your partner could handle swinging even if he or she became interested. The next step is to get them interested. This can be easy, because most people think that their fantasies can never become a reality. The fact is - they can! But you have to be prepared. Start by discussing your thoughts and fantasies with your partner. Then move on to imagination, story telling, or role playing. You may want to sit down together and talk to other curious couples or couples who already are swingers. Take your time. It takes time to become comfortable with the whole idea. Don't ever pressure your partner or make him or her feel guilty for not swinging.
How do I talk to couples who swing or are curious about swinging?
The easiest way is to "chat" with them in SoftSWING LIVE CHAT. Some couples would rather look through the directory and talk with someone that they have an interest in. You can make arrangements to e-mail them, chat with them on SoftSWING, or maybe even talk on the phone.
How do I bring up the subject of swinging with my partner?
Communication! This is biggest cause of couples problems. You should have good communications, or develop it, if you are going to swing. Talk about your fantasies. Show your partner web pages like SoftSWING (be sure the page has something that will interest him or her). Some sites are not tasteful and may not be the right thing to show.
How do we start?
Depends on your situation. If you have a club near you, you can visit it. Most of them have an orientation for new members. You can look through a swinger magazine or look right here on SoftSWING. You can even place ads if you would like others to contact you. The benefit of meeting a couple through an ad is you know up front, that you both share a common interest, or curiosity, in swinging. Then you can build a friendship, or get to know each other, before you make any decisions.
We are going to a party. What do we wear and what do we expect?
Dress depends on the dance or party. Ask your host or other club members. Usual dress will be casual, but neat. Remember, you are trying to make a good impression. What to expect depends on the event. But whatever it is, be relaxed. No one will make you do anything against your will.
What kind of people are swingers?
Very normal people, just like you! Swingers tend to be married, friendly, outgoing people. They tend not to be religious. Physically you will see all types; tall or short, skinny or fat, young or old, and all mixes in between.
Swingers are just about everywhere. Finding them may be difficult. Check your local adult book or video store for any local swing publications. If that still doesn't help, advertise on SoftSWING or in print. Many couples answer ads, but never place them.
If we place an ad, what should we say?
Say the truth. Honestly describe yourselves and what you are looking for. Be specific. If you are placing an ad, photos will increase your response. Remember, sexy is better than slutty. When answering ads it is recommended that you don't send nude photos until you know the person on the other end is for real. There are many "photo collectors" posing as couples. Photocopies or g-rated GIF's or JPG's are fine for first letters.
We answered an ad! How should we meet?
Meet at a neutral setting (i.e. restaurant or lounge). This makes it much easier to leave if things don't go well. Be on time and make sure that you have given each other specific contact information (i.e. What kind of car, dress, etc). Prepare preset signals to communicate between the two of you, such as "Yes", "No", "Maybe", and "Let's get the hell out of here!"
Now we've met and want to get down to business. Where do we go from here?
Don't be shy, ask! Make arrangements. Talk between the couples. What are the rules? Same room, different rooms, swap, or just soft-swing, etc. Once the ground rules are set, go for it. Just remember, "NO" means NO, at any time.
I'm a single guy. How come so many ads say "No single males"?
Swinging is not only physical, but philosophical. Swinging is sharing. Sharing is two-sided and single guys tend to be takers and not givers. Single guys seem to be self-centered (i.e. "What's in it for me?"). They tend to be rushed (i.e. "Hi. Let's fuck.") They become too attached and clingy (i.e. falling in love with the woman). Single guys are viewed as being a greater health risk. This is not to say that a single can't be successful finding couples. It happens all the time, but you must realize that swinging is still a couples game.
What about safe sex?
Many couples insist on it, some don't. It is a personal decision for you. There are many scary diseases out there so, do what you feel comfortable with. AIDS shouldn't be the reason for not swinging, because it is easily prevented. Never let anyone tell you not to use protection, if that is your choice.
My wife and I are a little overweight. Should we wait until we lose weight to swing?
It's always nice to lose a little weight if you need to. But don't let that stop you. You will find all types (and shapes) of couples at events. Don't worry, but being HWP (height and weight proportional) does give you more options.
What's the most important thing to know about swinging?
Communication! Be as attentive and courteous to your partner as you are to the other couple. Set rules and limits, and stick to them. Finally, just relax and have fun!
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