Private, intimate, on- premise membership club. BYOB (bring your own booze) located in the Louisville area. With over 10,000 sq. ft. of up-scale social and play area for the sensuously inclined couple, bi-curious female, and select single males. Everyone has to be interviewed in order to attend. Open every Friday and Saturday, 8PM until 8AM. Out of area NASCA Affiliate membership cards honored.
There are many avenues for you to meet like-minded couples. Classified ads, online chat rooms, online bulletin boards, lifestyle magazines available at your local adult store, strip clubs that cater to lifestyles or host "Couples Nights", lifestyle clubs, and others. There is no single possibility that you have to do. Pick one or more that you feel comfortable with and take it slow. And, you will probably have found the first thing you have in common with another couple! If you hate strip clubs and like online chat rooms, in a chat room you will most likely find couples who also do not like strip clubs.
If you are communicating with a couple either online or through a classified, it would be wise to take a few safety precautions:
Get a P.O. Box to receive mail rather than giving out your home address.
Keep first meetings short and in a public place. It can be real uncomfortable to plan a whole evening with a couple only to find that you do not get along.
Keep meetings on a "no strings attached" basis.
Talk on the phone first. Talk to both partners to ensure they are a couple and both seem to be interested in the lifestyle. You can learn a lot about a couple over the phone.
Create a separate online mailbox to receive and send email to new couples to ensure your privacy.
Regardless of how long you have been in the lifestyle, bad situations do happen. And they happen to everyone. It won't take long before you talk to someone who had an experience where one person started crying, or a person was being too rough and demanding.
There is no test to give people beforehand, and even experienced people sometimes feel jealous or lose their mood. The best thing to do is "Stop!". It might not be easy at the time. In fact, it will probably be one of the hardest things you ever find yourself doing. But the next day, you will be happy that you took control of the situation and did what was right for you. It certainly will not be easy if you see your spouse having a great time while you are figuring out your grocery list in your head. You might even feel compelled to keep going, as you wouldn't want to spoil everyone else's fun.
But you need to be in control of you and not worry about anyone else. If you chose a true lifestyle couple, they will be understanding and supportive. Plus, your primary concern should be your partner, not the other couple's feelings. If they don't understand that, too bad. Then you will know that either they aren't in the lifestyle for the right reasons or that they just aren't the right couple for you.
It's important to discuss this eventuality with your spouse before it even happens. Some couples have come to the agreement that if they find themselves in that situation, they will quietly excuse themselves and feel comfortable with their partner continuing. In reality, this type of agreement will probably change from one situation to another. If it is the other woman making your wife uncomfortable, then it's doubtful she would appreciate you continuing. Remember, this is about your relationship and your partner. If they feel uncomfortable with ANY situation, you need to be supportive and available to them.
Tips to get out if you need to:
Be honest - tell the person you are with that you are feeling uncomfortable. The hardest choice, but by far the best.
If, for whatever reason, you find the situation to be too difficult:
Bathroom break - a great way to stop the heat of the moment and give you a chance to look in the mirror and remember that you come f